If you clicked on this I’m sure that you struggle with balance. And when I say balance I don’t mean how well you can stand on one leg, I mean the internal balance that we must maintain to feel fulfilled, happy and normal. Balance comes fundamentally from understanding the world around you and where you fit into it. Essentially: what elements do you need from the world and what things do you need to give back in order to keep the scales stable. Correct me if I'm wrong, but as people I believe that we are generally reactionary, meaning that we only try to get balance in our life when we're 10 feet deep in chaos. The key is to become better at maintenance and in turn better at knowing who we are as individuals. All these struggles you face with feeling out of control and unable to find balance is within everyone. We all feel this loss of control. Recently, because of my frantic need to regain the regins in my life, I’ve internally found a new way to help visualize personal balance. This is what this blog post is about! First, it’s important to know and acknowledge that no one has the same balance to maintain. Every person has a different centre of gravity and equilibrium, everyone emphasizes different values that need to be fulfilled. And that’s what balance is: making sure all your values are met. Values: a person's principles or standards of behaviour; one's judgment of what is important in life. On the road to balance and inevitably happiness it’s important to sit down and mentally take note of your values, or even write them down. "What things make me the happiest?" "What things do I not want?" "What do I not have enough time for but am better off doing?" After you answer these questions I find that its easiest to start by writing down your values and working to narrow it down to four important values that are measurable. This can help the whole procedure to feel less overwhelming. If you're struggling to do this, it's important to look at what makes you unique and what fuels you. Does exercising make you happier? Does writing poetry? Do you need to spend a certain amount of time traveling? Use your values to assess and find your gasoline. Let me give an example, the best way to think about it is this strange alignment chart. When the happy face (you) is in the center is when you’re values are at 100% but when one takes over the other you’ll see that you lose your balance and some fundamental element of what is makes you happy.
So I made a change to restore my balance, (1) connected my friends and family (2) made plans and made sure it wasn’t the last ones for a while and (3) introspectively set more time aside for the people in my life. This may be the A type in me but I find this to be the best way to evaluate and make an effort to rebalance myself. If you find yourself drained, or you haven’t posted on your personal blog in almost six months, it may be time to reassess. In my opinion, you can’t keep whipping around and expecting the balance to come naturally. So set some time aside for you and bring balance back to your life, reader! Set the scales right and do some introspection! (I've left a blank introspection chart at here for your to try out for yourself!)
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